Tuesday, May 20, 2014

God-pige-syndrom - Good Girl Syndrom

Aktiv, aktiv dag. Først arbejde, derefter et sent møde og så et opkald fra en veninde, der havde det dårligt. Hun er kommet ind på universitetet til en meget eftertragtet uddannelse, og nu godt inde i forløbet har hun fundet ud af, at det er slet ikke det, hun vil. Det er alt for tørt og teknisk.
Så vi fik talt om, om at give op er en fiasko, og om hvad folk vil sige. Det er, hvad jeg kalder 'Den gode pige gone overdrive'! Det er - i mine øjne - kun en fiasko at give op, hvis man ikke har prøvet 100%. Og det har hun! Men vi træffer alle forkerte beslutninger.  Og hvad folk siger!? Man bliver normalt kun kritiseret af de mennesker, der sidder hjemme i sofaen og har en mening om alt i livet - uden nogen sinde at have afprøvet det 'herude' i praksis. De, der selv har knoklet, her ude hvor tingene sker, har en helt anden forståelse for, at ikke alt lykkes. Og så er det bare at finde en anden løsning - og det gør hun. Hun skal nok komme i mål.

 En aften, hvor en fryser-pizza med salat er perfekt 
-A night when a freezer-pizza with a salad is perfect!

- og nu afslapning med et nyt designblad og lidt goodies
- and now relaxation with a new design magazine and a couple of goodies

Active, active day. First work, then a late meeting, and finally a call from a girlfriend, who was feeling bad. She has started her studies at the university at a very coveted study, and now a good part into the year she has found out that it is not at all, what she expected. It is much too dry and technical.
So we talked about, if giving up is a failure, and about what will people think. That is what I call 'Good girl gone overdrive'! It is - in my eyes - only a failure to give up, if you haven't given it all. And she has. We all make wrong decisions. And what about what people think?! You are normally only criticized by people sitting at home in their sofas having an opinion about everything in life - without having tried anything in practice. The ones, who are out here where life goes on, have a totally different understanding for that not everything becomes a success. So now she is going to find a new way to go - and she will. She will get there eventually.

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