Hun sætter stor ære i at være velforberedt og organiseret. Hun laver ugeplaner, middagsplaner, indkøbslister og har faste dage for at vaske og ordne hus. Faste dage hvor hun får ordnet hår og faste dage til pedicure m.v. Faste dage for alt der har med rutiner at gøre.
Det er time management! Men det er også overdrevet time management.
For hvis der kommer noget uventet i vejen, så bryder hele planen sammen med stor stress til følge. Hvis pedicure-damen melder afbud, bliver rytmen brudt, og selv om min veninde får tilbudt en ny tid, så griber ind i noget andet, og så vælter korthuset. Det samme sker, hvis nogen tilbyder hende en teaterbillet til i aften/i morgen eller næsten hvornår som helst. Hvis kalenderen fortæller, at det er vasketid eller tid til rengøring af badeværelset, så bliver der sagt nej tak.
I dag har hun sagt nej tak til en invitation til kaffe og kage, fordi hun skulle stryge.
Det er ikke en kritik. Det er en konstatering af, at det er umådelig svært at leve på den måde. Jeg har selv i de sidste par dage erfaret, hvor hurtigt der kan ske noget, som ændrer planerne - hvilket bl.a. har givet sig udslag i, at jeg ikke har fået blogget som sædvanligt. Fordi livet sker! Og heldigvis for det. Der skal være plads til ændringer. Der skal være plads til pludselige indfald, sjove oplevelser eller at tage sig tid til at hjælpe andre.
Hvem har lyst til at dø med tanken om, at alt blev lavet til planlagt tid, men desværre var der kun plads i kalenderen til rutinerne.
Med planer gælder præcis den samme regel som med ting. Gør det hele så enkelt som muligt. Det giver bevægelsesfrihed.
Kig på din to-do liste for weekenden og se at få gjort det det absolut nødvendige i en fart, drop resten, grib dine kære og gå ud og gør noget dejligt sammen!
Ingen belønner os for at være ordensmennesker. Men vi føler os belønnet, når vi er sammen med de vigtigste mennesker i vores liv.
Rigtig god weekend!
She takes big pride in being well prepared and organized. She makes weekly plans, dinner plans, shopping lists and has specific days for doing the laundry and cleaning the house. She has specific days for the hairdresser and the pedicure ect. Fixed days for everything, which has to do with routines.
That is time management. But it is also excess time management.
Because if something unexpected happens, the whole plan breaks down, which creates a lot of stress. If the pedicure lady has to cancel, the rythm breaks, and even if my friend is offered another appointment, then something else has to be moved, and then the whole card house comes down. The same thing happen, if somebody offers her a ticket for the theater tonight/tomorrow or at any time in fact. If there isn't a free slot in the calendar, even though the time is 'occupied' by laundry or cleaning the bathroom, it is a no.
Today she said thanks, but no thanks for an invitation for coffee and cake, because she has to iron her laundry.
This is not criticism. It is an ascertainment, that it is difficult to live this way. I myself have these last days experienced, how fast plans can change - which is why I haven't been blogging as usual. Because life happens! And thank God for that! There has to be room for events and changes. There has to be room for sudden events and ideas. Space in the calendar to help others. And have fun!
Who wants to die with the thought, that everything was done as scheduled, but unfortunately there was only time slots in the calendar for routine stuff.
But the rule for plans are exactly like the rule for things. Make everything as simple as possible. It gives freedom.
Take a look at your to-do list for the weekend, then go do the absolutely necessary stuff in a jiffy, drop the rest, grab your loved ones and go do something really wonderful together.
Nobody rewards us for being tidy or organized! But we get rewarded for being present with the important persons in our lives.
Have a great weekend!
Who wants to die with the thought, that everything was done as scheduled, but unfortunately there was only time slots in the calendar for routine stuff.
But the rule for plans are exactly like the rule for things. Make everything as simple as possible. It gives freedom.
Take a look at your to-do list for the weekend, then go do the absolutely necessary stuff in a jiffy, drop the rest, grab your loved ones and go do something really wonderful together.
Nobody rewards us for being tidy or organized! But we get rewarded for being present with the important persons in our lives.
Have a great weekend!
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